tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post8700381087762758534..comments2023-03-22T08:50:03.413-04:00Comments on Diary of a Scapegoat: LOL Freaking SERIOUSLY??!!DisturbedAngelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18225187766715006090noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-25348313537620355842011-05-06T12:39:29.134-04:002011-05-06T12:39:29.134-04:00@ Winterskiprincess - LOL LOVE what you did with y...@ Winterskiprincess - LOL LOVE what you did with your NSM's pic!! And what an added bonus that you also get healthier and more fit in the process of your venting! <br /><br />I actually did something similar a few years back. I put NSJ's picture on a dart board and had at it! :o) Felt WONDERFUL to vent my rage onto his pic, especially when I took the tip of a dart and gouged out his eyes in the pic! Some may think me bad or "violent" I suppose for doing it but I'd have to disagree and say it was a healthy way of releasing years and years of pent up anger and frustration and pain.DisturbedAngelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18225187766715006090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-88185415750132081712011-05-06T11:45:07.529-04:002011-05-06T11:45:07.529-04:00Or that you were somehow doing him a favor by chea...Or that you were somehow doing him a favor by cheating on it, like he somehow encouraged you to do it LOL. It is NPD at it's finest.<br /><br />I just let em win and be right all they want to these days .<br /><br />Oh, I should share a fun thing I did with my NSMs picture...<br /><br />http://my-family-sucks.blogspot.com/2007/12/fitness-tips-for-disturbed.html<br /><br />Beats shooting clay pigeons, and helps my arm strength:)Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-41987802038497266592011-05-06T11:38:18.936-04:002011-05-06T11:38:18.936-04:00I've been reading the past couple of posts and...I've been reading the past couple of posts and the whole scenario REALLY gets under my skin. I feel your frustration, disappointment, and anger! You said, "it makes me physically ILL that she can sit there and pretend to care about me when it is SO clear that neither of them gives a damn." Oh man, I know how that feels. It's so frustrating when all they are doing is putting on a SHOW. They care more about the facade, about how everyone else sees them, than they do about you. Uck.Jonsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17517677634712242866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-58987530841550932982011-05-06T11:18:38.781-04:002011-05-06T11:18:38.781-04:00@ Winterskiprincess - That comment stood out to me...@ Winterskiprincess - That comment stood out to me as well. As if I asked for, wanted or needed her permission to take some time away for myself! Talk about arrogance!! But, then, that is a major part of the core definition of NPD, isn't it?<br /><br />Part of me is also having trouble believing her gall in trying to convince ME, of all people, that they stayed away out of the goodness of their own hearts when they surely know, as well as I do, that the reason they didn't come was because *I* told them they weren't welcome and not to show up!! I mean, really, are you KIDDING ME??!! That'd be like my dh walking in and catching me in bed with another man (NOT something I'd EVER do, mind you) and then me trying to claim later that, "I've never cheated on you! I don't know what you're talking about." Gaslighting at it's finest, I suppose. Still, the unabashed GALL of the two of them...!!DisturbedAngelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18225187766715006090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-70214551984158630622011-05-06T11:12:22.186-04:002011-05-06T11:12:22.186-04:00"That's O.K. as long as you know we didn&..."That's O.K. as long as you know we didn't walk away from you" Translation to follow: "That's okay as long as we win, and we can project ourselves as being in the right."<br /><br />Yes, my father did not choose to walk away either. He asked for me to leave the door open, I gave him the benefit of the doubt only to find out he ripped up my Christmas and Thanksgiving cards sent during this "open door period" that HE asked for. <br /><br />But just so I knew he was right AND that he would do anything to save the relationship just so's I'd talk to him LOLOL. Yeah, I am just sure things would have been so much different, that is if the meaning of differnent means oh so much worse! <br /><br />Hang in there, take a deep breath, and live your life to the fullest:)Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-56276078648511599132011-05-06T07:57:08.235-04:002011-05-06T07:57:08.235-04:00It's like she's fishing, dangling the bait...It's like she's fishing, dangling the bait right in front of you, willing you to take it.<br />Yikes.<br />At least you can see what she's doing quite clearly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-33530359377392282502011-05-06T03:20:06.474-04:002011-05-06T03:20:06.474-04:00Throwing clay pigeons, used for skeet shooting, is...Throwing clay pigeons, used for skeet shooting, is a wonderful way to drain off the excess energy of anger. I agree with Judy. It really isn't about you at all, nor the 11 year old child either. The thing I found most startling to read your blog and many others is how similar our nparents are to each other. I used to dream that they found me under a rock. I wanted to scream that I couldn't possibly be their child. Now I know that it never was about me at all. I think you deserve an awesome Mother's day.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-54655208195214219232011-05-05T22:50:29.504-04:002011-05-05T22:50:29.504-04:00Allow yourself to be angry. It is maddening. Then ...Allow yourself to be angry. It is maddening. Then don't give her anymore of your emotional real estate. Sadly, you can't explain enough, yell enough, be patient enough because when it comes to Ns, it isn't about you, it's all about them. <br /><br />When there's been enough time and distance, you'll re-evaluate. But today, roar a bit, roll your eyes, and do something nice for you and dh and ds because you are not going to raise ds the same way.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07843239483061220089noreply@blogger.com