tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post874136709856961175..comments2023-03-22T08:50:03.413-04:00Comments on Diary of a Scapegoat: Confused...DisturbedAngelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18225187766715006090noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-50633447051465488582013-10-02T19:29:24.466-04:002013-10-02T19:29:24.466-04:00@Palantean - Not sure what's going on. Have tr...@Palantean - Not sure what's going on. Have tried several times to access the site only to find it still down. All I know is what is posted on the main page, that it's down for "technical problems". :o)DisturbedAngelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18225187766715006090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-78924940937456859062013-09-17T11:38:49.662-04:002013-09-17T11:38:49.662-04:00Hi Disturbedangel,
It's Palantean here. I'...Hi Disturbedangel,<br /><br />It's Palantean here. I'm looking for information about why the DoNM forum has been down for so long. Do you know? <br /><br />You can contact me if you like on palantean [at] hotmail dot co dot uk.<br /><br />PAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09864562522993134560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-37214671711651232472013-02-10T20:45:19.279-05:002013-02-10T20:45:19.279-05:00I don't think there is anything wrong with you...I don't think there is anything wrong with you for wanting to have a relationship with your NPs. I believe that it's kind of impossible for that desire to be absent in any child (or adult child). You can want to have a relationship (or actually have one) with a narcissistic parent and still not be "crazy." I think the secret is that you have to maintain your boundaries like a pro, always. So having relationships with them always ends up being exhausting, in every sense of the word.<br /><br />Hugs. I'm sorry you're in such a difficult spot and that you haven't yet found all the answer you're looking for.<br /><br />-JonsiJonsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17517677634712242866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-19194053769183340782013-02-10T13:55:54.841-05:002013-02-10T13:55:54.841-05:00I have found it helpful to look at NC as recovery ...I have found it helpful to look at NC as recovery from an addiction, with "cravings" for contact. My NM was quite the whiner also, and I enabled her by listening, offering advice, researching her problems for her....none of which she followed or which helped because she just lived to whine another day, or the answer didn't work if she DID try it!! So part of my recovery besides NC, is to check those helpful (enabling) thoughts at the door and not engage. This is it in short form for me....Kassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722930345289468125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4079681358332005341.post-50184732083987520072013-02-01T00:43:53.637-05:002013-02-01T00:43:53.637-05:00Hugs. The frustration is never ending which is why...Hugs. The frustration is never ending which is why people go no contact. I decided to let go of my expectations. She is going to do what she wants any way. I am of the notion that a desire to feel connected to family is a fairly normal, human feeling. Unfortunately, not all families fit one cookie cutter existence. You need to do what works for you whatever it is. Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.com