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Dear (NM's name) and DA,
Over the years, I've tried really hard to be the go-between for you and maintain neutrality. You both know how important the truth is to me-if I've said it once, I'll say it again-the truth will set you free. Recently, I've received an email from you DA, stating things that happened over this last weekend. (NM's name), I've heard your version of the weekend's events from Mom. The 2 stories are nothing alike. If I didn't know the two of you, I would think the events happened at different times or in different families.
I honestly don't know what to say to either of you. Please don't call me and try to tell me that YOU are the one who is telling the truth. I will not share with either of you what the other one has said, but I have to say that I WOULD appreciate someone coming clean and telling me the truth. I'm not going to go back and forth and rehash who said what. You both know what you've said or written, and you both know what is the truth and what is elaboration or untruth.
I love you both, and this whole situation is difficult and very uncomfortable for me. I was just going to ignore it and let it go, but something is very wrong here when 2 people are talking about the same people and the same events, that happened on the same day, and the 2 stories are totally different. Perhaps that is part of what is wrong between the two of you.
Love, N
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Right now, I am seriously so fracking mad at that bitch, aka my "mother", that I could scream! Once again, because of her flipping bullshit, my extended FOO - especially my aunt N who was the ONE person in my entire FOO who gave enough of a shite to actually LISTEN to me and hear me out - has been turned against me and for WHAT??! So that NM can get herself another freaking pity party??! A few scraps of N supply??
Worst of all, but then this is often the case, I didn't even DO anything. I was just sitting at home, living my life, minding my own business cleaning my house and playing with my ds and - WHAM! - out of nowhere I get a call from my FIL saying that my NM just called and now all hell is breaking loose.
I am seriously SO sick and tired of this bullshit. Immediately upon reading this email, I didn't know whether to punch my fist through a wall or just start sobbing. After a long bitch and sob fest, I'm now feeling considerably better but I'm still pissed as hell.
Just LET that bitch call here. I wish to God she would because I have a whole fracking lot I'd like to say to her stupid, lying ass. Freaking BITCH. I HATE her. The fact that I was actually thinking of contacting her just two days ago makes me want to vomit. It will be a cold day in hell before I EVER contact that bitch again. (And even then it ain't happening!)
Hope it was all worth it to her.
Through my parents' lies I lost the most important member of my FOO, my beloved "baby" brother. Thanks to their stupid N games I have him back but I will always blame them for all of those years without his love and support.
ReplyDeleteI hear your pain, but just know your anger will set you free. Never again will you have any doubts about your decision to go NC.
Stay strong and wait it out with your aunt, just like my Nparents your NM will reveal her true colors to your aunt one day and you'll get her back when the time is right.
I feel your pain and your anger. My Nsis is doing everything she can to get the whole family on her side. Right now her current victim is my father who has been trying his best to remain neutral. My father divorced my Nmother many years ago. He knows how evil she is but won't acknowledge that his other daughter didn't fall far from the tree. She spreads lies and will do anything except take responsibility for herself.
ReplyDeleteI highly recommend the book "People of the Lie" by Dr. Scott Peck. It is a wonderful tool to have to heal and to handle these people.