At least that's how I see it.
Found out from my aunt last week while we were chatting that my aunt N and her dh will be on vacation this week in Florida. With NM and SJ. At NM and SJ's timeshare.
Now I happen to know for a fact that these little vacations are always planned well in advance by at least 2 to 3 months, if not more. So NM knew she'd be out of town this week through the weekend. The significance of this information, you ask? Well, ds' fourth birthday is this weekend.
Since many, if not all of you are still probably scratching your heads, let me put it this way - I have been NC for just over three months now, which is about how long NM has probably had this trip planned for. This means that NM planned her little vacation for this weekend knowing full well she'd be out of town for ds' birthday. Even if she planned it AFTER I'd stopped talking with her, which I highly doubt based on past vacations which she and SJ always planned further in advance, she had no way of knowing that we wouldn't be talking again by then. After all, I've never actually told her anything, I just simply stopped playing her ridiculous games and have gone about my life. I've never issued any ultimatums or told her, "That's it. I'm done."
All this adds up to further proof, at least in my mind, that NM doesn't give a flying fig about ds. Of course, I'm sure that won't stop her from crying the blues to anyone and everyone who will listen about how I've kept her from yet another of her precious grandson's birthdays. (I was NC temporarily with NM last year around the same time.) "She didn't even invite me to his birthday!", is what I'm sure I'll hear back through the grapevine. Though the fact that she was out of town that weekend will likely be conveniently left out of her story. And, once again, I'll be the bad one and NM will be the poor victim.