Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Just checked my email and....

...there was an email from NSM! LOL Probably shouldn't have read it being that I consider myself technically NC with them both, her especially, but couldn't resist. Turns out, it was worth the laugh. Here it is, for your enjoyment!

Just would like to know where we are at with you? I don't want to assume that just because you haven't written back that you have stopped talking to us. Then we also don't want to push at  you since that is why we are where we are at. So we feel we are stuck between a rock and a hard place once again.
I'm working 40hrs since one of the girls is out from surgery and another is on vacation.
love NSM

In typical N fashion, it continues to be all about HER/THEM. How THEY are confused and don't know what to do. How THEY don't want to push and receive any more crap from irrational, too sensitive ole me. How THEY are "stuck between and rock and a hard place"...AGAIN no less! Oh WOE is THEM!!! And of course poor NSM has been working 40 hours this week - this compared to her usual 15 - 20. Oh, when will their suffering ever END??!!!


I don't plan to respond. Figure they'll eventually figure out for themselves that I don't want to talk to them anymore. And if not, oh well. Not my problem anymore.


  1. Sometimes it's hard to resist reading them- although I still have to tell myself "No matter what this email contains, I will NOT respond."

    I think NSM already suspects that you 'have stopped talking' to them. Why bring it up, if she doesn't already suspect it?

    The Dragon's emails (when she would send them) and all her phone messages are all about her-- what she wants and what she feels. Not once has she ever said, "What can I do to work this out with you?" or "I am sorry I hurt you."

    The best policy is to roll-eyes and ignore when you get "one of these." If NSM and NF really want to work on this, you will start getting emails that ask- "DA, what do you need from us?"

    Stay strong,

  2. I am better understanding why my counselor recommended handling these emails in 3D. Delete, Delete, Delete. Hope the rest of your day went well...

  3. "When will her suffering ever end?" LMAO I also love when they pull something out of their pocket that every responsible adult has had to deal with. Whether you are busy raising a family and working way too much overtime, or have a job where the hours become intense...

    We have all been there done that. But to them, it is a catastrope!! That is to be like us commoners who can take it in stride and with grace, and while not making it someone else's problem who is not involved.

  4. NumberOneNut wrote: If NSM and NF really want to work on this, you will start getting emails that ask- "DA, what do you need from us?"

    This is EXACTLY how I see it, though at this point, I don't know that even THAT would make me want to talk to them again. Dh thinks I should respond and say simply, "I haven't written because I don't know what more to say." and leave it at that. He thinks that not responding will cause more drama then that simple response but I think NOT responding will get my point across and that saying anything - even the little bit he thinks I should say - will only prompt more of a response from them.

    My plan is to talk to my therapist about it at session tonight and see what she thinks and then go from there. I'll let you all know what she says! ;o)

  5. Ignore her stupid email. The next ones: Read, copy & SHRED. Pretend you're shredding a mini-NSM:D

  6. I chuckled at this.

    I suspect (as others did as well) that NSM suspects you are no long on speaking terms with them, which is why she brought it up. Nice one, attempting to drag you back in.

    Woe is them.

    Yeah. Right.

  7. Responding invites them to engage. I think your plan to talk to your therapist is a good one. I couldn't resist reading either. I couldn't simply throw those letters away. What if there was something I really needed to know? I learned to give them to my sister and ask her to check if there was anything I needed to know. If not, toss it. There's more than one way to handle the problem, and you may change your mind later. You're allowed. Go you!