Just got through talking to my dad. (He called me.) Before hanging up, I said I wanted to ask about something. I told him that I'd noticed NSM seemed a little, shall we say INSISTENT, on all of us going out tomorrow and I asked my dad, "Is there a problem with my house or something?" I said it very politely, even laughed a little so I wouldn't come across wrong. He said to me - and I cannot BELIEVE he actually said this - that YES, in fact, there WAS a problem with my house, that it's "too small" and that they've "already DONE the whole 'sit around and my house and eat' thing before" and wanted to go out and DO something being that they a) rarely get to see us and b) are on vacation. :shock: Trying to remain polite, I told him that I get that they are just different personalities than us, where as they like to always be on the go, dh and I are "homebodies" and much prefer to just hang around the house and talk or whatever. He insulted me further by saying that he and NSM are offering me a COMPROMISE by suggesting that I go out to eat with them and not eat anything!!! So, apparently, I should APPRECIATE their rudeness?!!
I started to excuse myself and end the conversation then but he started talking about something else and I joined into that conversation. Things went okay for a few minutes and then the asshat has the gall to say to me that I need to put my dog to sleep because not only does it cause me stress but it's not fair to the dog (though he didn't phrase it like that). He added that when their (MY) dog Alex got to where he couldn't get up well anymore, they had him put to sleep because "it was more humane and they didn't want him to suffer". Mind you, this is the same man who reportedly - and, sadly, I can totally believe it - BEAT my dog with a two by four with a NAIL in it. Yet HE is somehow superior to ME because I don't feel it's time quite yet to let my dog go and put her to sleep??!! He also added that the situation with the dog (getting older and deteriorating) is just like dh's GM, people and animals get old and die. It's just a part of life and we have to just "deal with it and roll with the punches"!!! :shock: I mean, really, can he and NSM be ANY MORE thoughtless and apathetic about the whole thing??
Am seriously leaning towards just canceling the whole visit tomorrow by playing sick and then going NC after they're gone. I had hoped to have some sort of a positive relationship with my dad, especially so given my relationship status with my NM but, after this last conversation, it's clear he's just as f**ked up in the head as NM. Same goes for NSM who, if you ask me, is MORE f**ked up in the head. Out of FOUR parents, not a single ONE worth a damn in the entire bunch!